Conversation Starters

A conversation is an interactive communication between two or more people, allowing a smoother two-way flow of information between interested parties.

We strive for our Blossoms Dating members to engage more in genuine conversation. We have ideas to get them started, but each discussion is bound to be excitingly unique.

Ask a member what they would have said if they were the first person on the moon or whether it’s all right for couples to have secrets from each other. Ask them what they would teach their children about alcohol or whether they think animals have morals. Ask someone what their idea would be for a TV show or their opinion about tattoos.

Ask them questions to get to know them better.

We suggest several conversation starters that members can use, including “Which birthday tradition would you change?”, “What do you do to get rid of stress?”, “What three words best describe you?”, “What is your favorite way to waste time?” and “What do you want to achieve with your life?”.

Conversations are powerful. 

It’s where ideas blossom. It forges strong connections, becoming the life-blood of relationships.

Remember, don’t hesitate or be afraid to delve deeply into the conversation. Answering the question isn’t the goal. Having a deep, memorable, and uniquely exciting conversation is!

Start with the suggested conversation starters below or skip to questions about specific topics. Why not randomly select any question and turn it into a game of twenty questions? Try to be creative as you can and have fun, but don’t forget to ask follow-up questions!

A real conversation always contains an invitation. You are inviting another person to reveal herself or himself to you, to tell you who they are or what they want.

David Whyte

Hobby/Hobbies

  • What are your hobby/hobbies?
  • What do you like to do in your spare time?
  • Why do you enjoy your pursuit/pursuits so much?
  • How often do you do these hobbies?
  • How long have you been doing these hobbies, and how did you get started?
  • What hobbies did you used to have but now do not?
  • Is it necessary to have hobbies? Why/why not?
  • What are some misconceptions about your hobby?
  • Is there a hobby you are thinking about starting these days? What is it?
  • Do you like solo hobbies, or do you prefer to do group activities? Why?
  • Some people turn their hobbies into a career or a way of making money. Can you think of any examples?
  • Some people plan on taking up new hobbies when they retire. Are there some hobbies you would like to start later in life?
  • What are hobbies popular with children but not with adults?
  • What hobbies do men prefer? Which hobbies do women especially like?
  • What hobbies used to be popular but aren’t common now? Why have they gone out of fashion?
  • Are there any hobbies that only require people? Can they be done without equipment or unique items?
  • How much money do you usually spend on your hobby? Is it too much?
  • How much time do you spend on your hobbies? How much time would be too much?
  • Is it essential to have a hobby? If someone only works and sleeps, what is the problem?
  • Does your hobby produce anything useful, usable, or beneficial?

Food

  • What is your favorite food? Why?
  • What fantastic food comes from your country?
  • How do you feel after you eat your favorite food?
  • What foods do you dislike? Why?
  • Where do you usually get food?
  • What weird food combinations do you enjoy?
  • What food have you never eaten but would like to try?
  • What food is delicious but a strain to eat?
  • Do you eat food that’s past its expiration date if it still smells and looks fine?
  • Where’s your go-to restaurant for excellent food?
  • What’s the grossest food that you can’t get enough of?
  • What food do you crave most often?
  • If you owned a restaurant, what kind of food would it serve?
  • What’s the worst thing you ate from a fast-food restaurant?
  • What’s the best sandwich you’ve ever had?

Work

  • What work do/did you do?
  • When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? 
  • Are you looking for work these days? 
  • How do/did you like the work?
  • What is your dream job?
  • Are you an ambitious person? What career goals do you have?
  • What work is typical in your city/area/country?
  • What is your general view about work? Why?
  • What’s the hardest you’ve ever worked?
  • Are you a hard worker? What motivates you to work?
  • If you are looking for work, where is the best place to look these days?
  • What’s some insider knowledge that only people in your line of work have?
  • What’s the weirdest thing that has happened to you while working at your job?
  • What horror story do you have from a job you’ve had?
  • What occupation doesn’t exist now but will be necessary for the future?
  • If your job gave you a surprise three-day paid break to rest and recuperate, what would you do with those three days?
  • What tips or tricks have you picked up from your job/jobs?
  • If you could do one job, just for one day to learn what it is like, what would you do?
  • How many vacation days do workers in your country usually get per year? Is it enough?
  • How important is it to get along with co-workers? Is it a good idea to socialize with them outside work?
  • What is the usual retirement age in your country? Should it change? What would be a more appropriate retirement age?
  • Which professions are very well-paid these days? Why does society value those workers highly?
  • Are there any jobs you think are not paid enough? 
  • Do you know anyone that was fired from a job? What were the circumstances?
  • Do you know any workaholics? What makes them work so much?
  • Are there jobs that men do better than women do? How about vice versa?
  • Some jobs are powerful, but come with a lot of responsibility. How do you handle responsibility? Do you want more?
  • If every job paid the same amount of money, which job would you prefer to do?
  • What is the atmosphere like at your workplace?
  • What do you think about office romances? Is it a good idea or a bad idea to date a co-worker? Why?
  • Some companies use a flexible time system and employees can work hours that suit their lifestyles. What do you think about this?
  • What are the best and worst things about not working?

Time

  • How much free time do you usually have?
  • How important is time to you?
  • If you had more free time, what would you do?
  • “Time is money.” Do you agree or disagree? Why?
  • How do you feel about wasting time?
  • What from the present will withstand the test of time?
  • What questions would you like to ask a time traveler from 200 years in the future?

Sleep

  • How much sleep do you usually get?
  • Do you get enough sleep? If not, what stops you from sleeping enough?
  • What time do you typically go to sleep? 
  • What time do you usually get up?
  • Are you a night owl? If so, how late do you usually go to bed?
  • Are you a morning person? When do you like to wake up?
  • Do you tend to sleep through the night without waking? If not, what usually wakes you up?
  • What is your before-bed routine? Is there something you need to do to sleep?
  • What are the best weather conditions for sleeping?
  • Do you tend to sleep on your side, back, or front? Does it matter which position a person sleeps in?
  • Why do some people sleep well while other people do not sleep well? 
  • What do you do when you have trouble sleeping? 
  • Have you ever slept in a strange place that was not a bed?
  • How do you make yourself sleep when you can’t seem to get to sleep?
  • Have you ever slept outside? If so, explain the situation.
  • Do you eat before going to sleep? Why or why not? Have you ever eaten in bed?
  • Have you ever used medicine, tea, or something else to help you fall asleep?
  • Do you remember your dreams? If so, what kinds of things do you usually remember?
  • Have you ever woken up from a nightmare in a cold sweat? Can you remember what was so disturbing?
  • Do you take naps? How long should a good rest be?
  • Have you ever fallen into a food coma? What had you eaten?
  • Which is more comfortable: sleeping alone or sleeping with someone else?
  • What is the longest you have ever slept? What made you sleep for that long?
  • When you have a problem, do you try to solve it before bed, or do you prefer to sleep on it until the next day?
  • Have you ever had insomnia? If so, how severe was it, and how did you deal with it?
  • In your country, what do people say to someone who is about to sleep?

Good conversation is the equivalent of shared emotion.

Marty Rubin

Music

  • What type/genre of music do you like/dislike?
  • What’s your favorite song/album/artist?
  • How do certain kinds of music make you feel?
  • What types of music come from your country?
  • What music is popular in your country right now?
  • How often do you listen to music?
  • Is there a song that makes you emotional? Which song is it, and why is it so powerful?
  • Who is your favorite musician, band, or group? How important are they to you?
  • What artist or band do you always recommend when someone asks for a music recommendation?
  • Do you enjoy live music? Have you been to any concerts? Talk about the most memorable show that you have been to.
  • Do you see buskers in your city? How do you feel about what street performers do?
  • Does music have the power to change your mood? How does music affect you?
  • Can you sing well? How often do you sing?
  • Do you like karaoke? Do you have a song that you often sing? What is it?
  • What kind of equipment do you use to listen to music? How much are you willing to spend on good sound quality?
  • Do you buy physical copies of songs or albums? If not, where do you get your music? Do you stream it?
  • What makes you like a song? The melody, the lyricsor something else?
  • What song best represents you or your attitude to life?

Movies and Television

  • How often do you watch TV?
  • Should everyone have a television in their home?
  • What is the best way to watch television: Television, computer, tablet, or phone?
  • What television programs are popular in your country?
  • Do you like reality TV shows? Why or why not? If so, which ones?
  • What do you think about game shows? Do you have a favorite one?
  • What do you think will be the future of television?
  • What is your opinion on television?
  • If you had your TV show, what kind would it be?
  • What genres of movies do you like?
  • What’s your favorite movie of all time? Why do you like it?
  • What’s the worst movie you have ever seen?
  • Is going to the movies too expensive? How much are you willing to pay to see a film at the cinema? Will you pay more to see a 3D, 4D, or IMAX movie?
  • Do you like animated movies? Or are they just for kids?
  • Do you like horror movies? Why or why not?
  • Do you enjoy movies from your own country or other countries more? From which other countries?
  • What’s the strangest movie you have ever seen?
  • Do you try to watch films that win awards? Are awards good indicators of film quality?
  • What do you like to eat or drink while watching a film?
  • How long should a movie be? How long is too long?
  • Are sequels ever as good as the original? Give examples of good sequels if you can.
  • How do you choose which movie to watch? By the genre? The director? The main star?
  • Does watching movies in English help you learn English? Would you recommend this method to language students?
  • Can we learn about a culture from the movies that culture produces? What have you learned from foreign films?
  • Do you mind reading subtitles when you watch a foreign language film, or would you prefer it to be dubbed into your language?
  • Do you like documentaries? Why / why not?
  • Does violence in films and on television inspire violence in real life?
  • Do you think age restrictions for films are effective?
  • Are you looking forward to any upcoming movies? What film do you want to watch these days?
  • What was the last movie you watched? How was it?

Books

  • Do you like books/reading? Why/why not?
  • What kind of books do/did you like?
  • What is your favorite book? Why?
  • Who’s your favorite author?
  • What was the last book you read?
  • Do you believe reading books/literature is more important than reading stuff online? Why/why not?
  • What was your favorite book as a child?
  • Are you a fast reader or a slow reader? Have you tried to read more quickly?
  • Do you prefer to read fiction or non-fiction books? Why?
  • What was the worst book you had to read for school? How about the best book you had to read for school?
  • Do you prefer physical books or ebooks?
  • What is the longest book you’ve read?
  • Do you try to read books that are recognized as classics? Why or why not?
  • Where is the best place to read? How long can you read in one sitting?
  • How is your eyesight? Do you need glasses to read? Is too much reading terrible for our eyes?
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages of reading on any e-reading device, such as a Kindle or iPad?
  • Do you read magazines? What are some magazines you enjoy?
  • Do you read the newspaper? Which section do you read first?
  • The print industry has struggled in recent years because of the internet. Do you think paper newspapers and magazines will die out completely?
  • What do you think is the most popular book in the world?
  • Is there a library in your neighborhood? How often do you go to the library?
  • What does “don’t judge a book by its cover” mean? Do you agree with this idea?
  • Historically, some books have been banned or burned. Can a book be dangerous to society?
  • What do you do if you come across a word you don’t know while you’re reading? Do you look it up or carry on?
  • How many languages can you read in? How well can you understand each language?
  • Is reading in a second language a good way to practice that language?
  • People sometimes say that “every person has a book in them.” Have you thought about writing a book? What would you write about?
  • What book has influenced you the most?

Dating

  • What is the appropriate age to start dating?
  • What are your most important rules when going on a date?
  • What is your ideal type? Be as specific as possible.
  • What activities are enjoyable to do on a first date?
  • Is it a man’s responsibility to ask a woman out? If you’re a woman, have you asked a man out on a first date?
  • Who should pay on a date? What do you think about splitting the bill?
  • Is it okay to date several people at the same time?
  • Do you have any awful dating experiences you would like to share? If not, maybe you have heard about some from your friends?
  • Have you ever been on a double date or group date? How was it?
  • Do you like to talk a lot? Are you quiet when you meet someone first? 
  • Is it okay if one person does most of the talking on a date?
  • How can you tell if the other person is enjoying the date or wanting the date to end?
  • If you were on a date with someone and they kept checking their phone or watch, what would you do about it? Would you say something?
  • Is it essential to date many people before getting married? Is it better to be with one person for your entire life?
  • Describe your ideal romantic date (e.g., a candle-lit dinner followed by a walk on the beach).
  • Can you predict who will make a good couple?
  • Is it okay to date someone your friend already dated? Or are they forever off-limits?
  • Have you ever been on a blind date? How did it go?

Up Close and Personal

  • Do you know what your name means?
  • What is your middle name?
  • Where did you grow up?
  • Do you have any siblings?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • What type of phone do you have?
  • What did you do this past weekend?
  • What are your plans for this weekend?
  • What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
  • What is the last thing you do before you go to sleep?
  • What was the last thing you purchased?
  • What is your favorite holiday?
  • What is your favorite day of the week?
  • If you could meet anyone in history, who would it be?
  • What do you like to do to relax?
  • Are you a saver or a spender?
  • Do you play any instruments?
  • What do you think you do better than 90% of people?
  • What was the most impressive physical feat you’ve managed to pull off? 
  • What values are most important to you?
  • What makes you nervous?
  • Who is the funniest person you’ve met?
  • What weird or useless talent do you have?
  • Does technology simplify your life or make it more complicated? 
  • How have your goals changed over your life?
  • How much do you plan for the future?
  • What do you hope to achieve in your professional life?
  • How has the education you received changed your life?
  • If your life was a meal, what kind of meal would it be?
  • You have to relive one day of your life forever. Which day do you choose?

Conversation isn’t about proving a point; true conversation is about going on a journey with the people you are speaking with.

Ricky Maye